E70 – This is Part 2 of Paul Shaw’s interview with Julianne. Hear the other side of his career beyond solely surrogate partner and intimacy coach as discussed in Episode 69. He is a male dominatrix, or dom, and explains his life as a sensual professional working in an all-female Los Angeles dungeon. THIS EPISODE IS ONLY AVAILABLE ON PATREON. You might be surprised to learn about the psychology and empowerment behind the world of BDSM. Mr. Shaw takes his job seriously, making sure to understand his client’s background and goals, and takes great pride in his care and communication. You will hear stories of some of his clients and understand why the world of kinks and fetishes can be one of healing and therapy.
E69 – Julianne meets Paul Shaw and discusses his fascinating life as an intimacy coach and surrogate partner for those needing to work through overcoming sexual barriers. He is a former born again Christian, but now gives people physical sessions for their intimate issues, their empowerment, and their self-love. Hear stories about clients with disabilities that he has worked with, and what he has to say about human sexuality, psychology, relationships, and healing. This is a powerful episode in which we learn about sex and anatomy, with one of Paul’s goals being to teach men, women, and couples how to communicate and have better more meaningful sex.
At A Glance:
1:00 – Introduction
4:30 – Definition of sex surrogate partner
7:00 – His background
14:00 – Clientele
22:00 – In your head, into your body (pro tip #1)
25:30 – Insecurities, being in the moment (pro tip #2)
28:00 – Religion & purpose
29:30 – Exploring (pro tip #3)
30:00 – Vulva v. vagina (pro tip #4)
30:15 – Tantric sex
32:00 – G-spot, labia
33:15 – Labiaplasty, porn
35:30 – Orgasm, patriarchy
36:45 – Classes for men
38:15 – Intimacy coaching, trauma
41:00 – Touch and somatic therapy
43:30 – Settling down, girlfriend
44:30 – Conclusion
E25 – More deep thoughts. In this episode we discuss the Silver Lake hostage situation at the Trader Joes down the street from Weens’ house in Los Angeles. She describes the scene of helicopters, emergency vehicles, camera crews, journalists, cops, SWAT, and the mayor, and laments our detachment watching real life situations unfold on screen. Mouse wonders if it felt like Weens was at work, on the set of a cop show. But the reality and the thought of these victims having PTSD from this tragedy gets us talking about trauma and how it can change brain circuitry, resulting in all sorts of physical manifestations including rage and issues with food. We discuss therapy, body image issues, and bikinis on the beach. Why do women worry about bodies so much and men tend not to? Mouse gets into her caveman theories and how they relate to diet (are we evolving to be vegetarians?), dating, and mean girls. Is it evolution that has brought about gender and sexuality differences? Will we see women in power as we witness more marches and the fight for salary equality? Is this the cycling of history as at the turn of the century and again in the 60’s? Mouse talks about Sheryl Sandberg’s book “Lean In” and how she’s trying to apply it to raise a strong daughter. We talk about siblings and their role in families – first born, middle child, and the baby. What were Mouse and Weens like as little kids and why? And then we close it out by realizing that Weens, a boiling frog, needs a well-aerated plug!
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